What’s The Big Deal.

I don’t know where I’m going from here, but I promise it won’t be boring.

David Bowie

I’ve decided to quit new years. I’m tired of all the expectation and the bad habit of saving up making changes until that arbitrary moment….and then, if I missed the boat because I was distracted by something like needing to hibernate then I’m screwed and have to wait till next year. It’s an overinflated expectation and a huge guilt trip rolled into one. I just don’t know what the big deal is. How did this date end up being turned into such a required watershed moment?

I mean, what if the timing is off?

What if your soul animal is a black bear (like me) and you just need to hibernate between December 25th to January-ish? Let’s face it – that’s a lot to wake up to.

It’s too much.

I’m advocating instead for the old adage “Today is the first day of the rest of your life”. Let’s spread all that new years’ expectation over 365 days and forgive ourselves yesterday when we completely sucked at completing our to-do list and told a bunch of white lies to get out of showing up for just about anything.

I feel energized just thinking about how every single day is the start of a new year! Yes! It’s not too late after all – so let’s all just relax and tune in to our own sense of timing. I realize sometimes we need a nudge, but maybe we can practice being brave on February 7th. Or taking a big leap before we feel quite ready on April 20th.

Meanwhile, I hope your 2023 is filled with beautiful milestones, big and small, all year long. And if you missed all the sales and deals and resolutions because you just weren’t feeling it – it’s ok. Tomorrow’s the start of a whole new year.

Much love,


What’s The Big Deal.

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